Victim

Ask yourself: “Do I want to add to the drama, and ‘play,’ or to relax and ‘pass’?”

January 15 2021

Pass or Play

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When we hold multi-day workshops, at the end of the first day we ask participants to “stay tuned” to their experiences that night and simply notice how the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer may show up. The next morning, we invite participants to share what they noticed. The […]

The purpose of goals is to win at whatever game you are playing. The purpose of your intentions is to enjoy playing the game.

January 8 2021

Focus on Your Intentions More Than Goals

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Goal setting is a valuable skill that helps you stay on track and get things done. They are essential for completing immediate tasks, such as clearing your office or learning a new computer skill. They can increase your energy to get things done. But goal-setting can also work against you. For example, when you set […]

January 1 2021

Our 3 Most Popular Essays of 2020!

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As we say good-bye to 2020 and welcome 2021, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in you and may your 2021 be awesome! Layers of Protection Risky and […]

One of the most empowering gifts you can give to yourself and others is that of compassion.

December 18 2020

The Gift of Compassion

Debbie Hulbert Challenger, Coach, Communication, Creator, Creator Essence, Creator Orientation, DDT, Dreaded Drama Triangle, Leadership, Persecutor, Practices, Relationships, TED*, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim Challenger, change, Coach, Creator, DDT, Dreaded Drama Triangle, growth, listening, making shifts happen, relationships, Shift, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim 0

It’s the season of celebration and gift giving in many traditions around the world. Perhaps one of the most empowering gifts you can give to yourself and others is that of compassion. Compassion is a mindful and felt sense of empathy and concern for others—and for yourself. The work of Dr. Gabor Maté has taught […]

Be clear about your motivation in sharing TED* and be thoughtful about how you share it.

December 4 2020

Don’t Weaponize TED*

Debbie Hulbert 3 Vital Questions, Business & The Workplace, Challenger, Communication, Creator, Creator Essence, Creator Orientation, David Emerald, Donna Zajonc, Family, Making Shifts Happen, Persecutor, Persecutor, Politics & Government, Practices, Relationships, Rescuer, Rescuer, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim, Victim Orientation, World 3 Vital Questions, Challenger, change, choice, communication, Creator, David, David Emerald, DDT, Donna, donna zajonc, Donna Zajonc MCC, Drama, growth, learning, mindset, Persecutor, relationships, Rescuer, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim Orientation 0

Since first publishing The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) we have heard instances of how some people are using the framework in less than desirable ways. Here are a few examples: “After attending your workshop, I told my team they act like Victims and should stop their complaining and get their work done on […]