Victim Archives - 3 Vital Questions

Learning to give feedback that is useful is a powerful part of the Challenger role in TED*.

October 15 2021

Feedback Without Blame or Judgment

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As young school children, we are taught to ask the teacher for support and receive feedback to help us learn. That feedback was often in the form of a grade that we interpreted as either good or bad. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive […]

When authentically optimistic, you embrace your basic goodness and the goodness of others.

October 8 2021

Toxic Positivity or Authentic Optimism

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A primary outcome for applying the 3 Vital Questions® and Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® frameworks is supporting you to be the best version of yourself possible. This includes being resourceful, even when life is hard. When difficult things happen, one common approach is to stay overly positive and force yourself to look on […]

Learning to let go is a life journey that will allow your Creator essence to emerge and grow.

October 1 2021

Let Go or Be Dragged

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We have a friend who complained about the ups and downs and volatility of the stock market in the last few days. He focused on his dream of a larger retirement check, rather than the comfortable retirement he now has. We have another friend who complains about not being able to travel, insisting that she […]

As a Creator, you can choose to welcome all your emotions as part of your human experience.

September 24 2021

Make Friends with All of Your Emotions

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It may sound like a lot to accept the idea of welcoming all your emotions. It’s great to feel happy and joyful, but how about the uncomfortable emotions like anger, sadness, and frustration? For most of us, it is not easy to be comfortable with these heavier emotions. With the pandemic and disruptions everywhere, you […]

As you shift from knower to learner you become more open to consider new possibilities.

September 17 2021

Shift from a “Knower” Mind to a Learner’s Mind

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One of the faster ways to put yourself into a drama relationship with yourself and others is to pretend you know something when you don’t. If you pretend you know how to fix your computer after it crashes, rather than ask for help from a computer professional, you will only cause yourself frustration. Pretending you […]