Watching a young toddler play the “peek-a-boo” game is such joy. It’s the laughter and connecting that elicits the giggles each time the toddler yells; “Do it again!” Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a “do-over” moment when you have said something you didn’t mean, or you made a mistake you want to […]
In last week’s “TED* Works!®” we wrote about the all-important question, “What do you want?” as the key question to ask to shift out of the problem-focused, anxiety-based, and reactive Victim Orientation. Once you, your team, or family is entrenched in focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want, it explains why getting stuck […]
What do you want? This is often a question that is more easily asked than answered. If you are like most people, you know what you don’t want, more than what you do want. When an individual or team is first asked this question in our workshops, it is not unusual to get a “deer […]
There’s a fine line between being supportive and being overly helpful. Once you slip into over-helpful mode, you don’t have a choice to act. Your desire to be helpful becomes a craving, maybe even a compulsion. In this fast-paced world many of us “over-do” and become vigilant about what might go wrong. As soon as […]
“You are always at choice.” This is a declaration we make regularly in workshops and presentations. It is also a statement that many people often disagree with. Most of their push backs begin with this phrase: “But what about…” It is sometimes very hard to remember that no matter the outside circumstances, you are still […]