Watching a young toddler play the “peek-a-boo” game is such joy. It’s the laughter and connecting that elicits the giggles each time the toddler yells; “Do it again!” Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a “do-over” moment when you have said something you didn’t mean, or you made a mistake you want to […]
I (Donna) recently had a challenging conversation that helped me realize, again, how important listening skills are. Here is the story: I called an audiologist to have my hearing tested. I have had ringing in my ears for a few years and wanted to have it checked out again. The receptionist eagerly found a time […]
In last week’s “TED* Works!®” we wrote about the all-important question, “What do you want?” as the key question to ask to shift out of the problem-focused, anxiety-based, and reactive Victim Orientation. Once you, your team, or family is entrenched in focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want, it explains why getting stuck […]
Two weeks ago, we wrote about the Victim-to-Creator shift and last week the Persecutor-to-Challenger shift. This week we describe the Coach role, which is the positive alternative, or antidote, to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer. Together, the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles represent the best of who you are as a human being. A […]
Of the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles of Creator, Challenger, and Coach, we receive the most questions about the shift from the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Persecutor to Challenger. We humans have a strong tendency to judge others and be critical of ourselves. While being a Persecutor to others may be what […]