Rescuer

Ask yourself: “Do I want to add to the drama, and ‘play,’ or to relax and ‘pass’?”

January 15 2021

Pass or Play

Debbie Hulbert Business & The Workplace, Choice, Communication, Creator, Creator Orientation, David Emerald, DDT, Donna Zajonc, Dreaded Drama Triangle, Family, Leadership, Life Challenges, Making Shifts Happen, News, Parenting, Pause Practice, Persecutor, Persecutor, Politics & Government, Practices, Relationships, Rescuer, Rescuer, Stress, TED*, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim, World change, choice, communication, Creator, David, David Emerald, DDT, Donna, donna zajonc, Donna Zajonc MCC, Drama, Dreaded Drama Triangle, growth, learning, making shifts happen, mindset, Pause, Persecutor, relationships, Rescuer, Shift, stress, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim 0

When we hold multi-day workshops, at the end of the first day we ask participants to “stay tuned” to their experiences that night and simply notice how the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer may show up. The next morning, we invite participants to share what they noticed. The […]

January 1 2021

Our 3 Most Popular Essays of 2020!

Debbie Hulbert 3 Vital Questions, Addiction, Baby Steps, Baby Steps, Business & The Workplace, Challenger, Choice, Coach, Communication, Creator, Creator Essence, Creator Orientation, David Emerald, DDT, Donna Zajonc, Dreaded Drama Triangle, Dynamic Tension, Dynamic Tension, Family, Gratitude, Inner Persecutor, Leadership, Life Challenges, Making Shifts Happen, Neurobiology, News, Outcome, Parenting, Pause Practice, Persecutor, Persecutor, Politics & Government, Practices, Relationships, Rescuer, Rescuer, Spirituality, Stress, TED*, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim, Victim Orientation, Victimization, World 1st Vital Question, 2nd Vital Question, 3 Vital Questions, Baby Steps, brain, Challenger, change, choice, Coach, coaching, communication, creativity, Creator, David, David Emerald, DDT, Donna, donna zajonc, Donna Zajonc MCC, Drama, Drama Triangle, Dreaded Drama Triangle, growth, inner persecutor, innovation, learning, listening, making shifts happen, mindset, mistakes, Outcome Orientation, Pause, Pause Practice, Persecutor, relationships, Rescuer, Shift, stress, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim Orientation 0

As we say good-bye to 2020 and welcome 2021, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in you and may your 2021 be awesome! Layers of Protection Risky and […]

Be clear about your motivation in sharing TED* and be thoughtful about how you share it.

December 4 2020

Don’t Weaponize TED*

Debbie Hulbert 3 Vital Questions, Business & The Workplace, Challenger, Communication, Creator, Creator Essence, Creator Orientation, David Emerald, Donna Zajonc, Family, Making Shifts Happen, Persecutor, Persecutor, Politics & Government, Practices, Relationships, Rescuer, Rescuer, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim, Victim Orientation, World 3 Vital Questions, Challenger, change, choice, communication, Creator, David, David Emerald, DDT, Donna, donna zajonc, Donna Zajonc MCC, Drama, growth, learning, mindset, Persecutor, relationships, Rescuer, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim Orientation 0

Since first publishing The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) we have heard instances of how some people are using the framework in less than desirable ways. Here are a few examples: “After attending your workshop, I told my team they act like Victims and should stop their complaining and get their work done on […]

By accepting others and taking responsibility for your response to a situation, you are acting as a Creator.

November 27 2020

Face It—You Cannot Change Other People

Debbie Hulbert Business & The Workplace, Choice, Communication, Creator, Creator Essence, Creator Orientation, DDT, Dreaded Drama Triangle, Making Shifts Happen, Outcome, Pause Practice, Practices, Relationships, Rescuer, Rescuer, TED*, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim change, choice, communication, Creator, DDT, Dreaded Drama Triangle, making shifts happen, relationships, Rescuer, Shift, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama 0

The holiday season is upon us. In normal times—which these are not—people around the world will gather with family and close friends to celebrate and have conversations around the dinner table or on video calls. Some of your conversations may include disagreements on issues of the day, long simmering family dynamics, or other forms of […]

October 16 2020

Stuck in Habitual Pleasing

Debbie Hulbert Challenger, Creator, Creator Orientation, David Emerald, DDT, Donna Zajonc, Dreaded Drama Triangle, Inner Persecutor, Life Challenges, Making Shifts Happen, Persecutor, Persecutor, Rescuer, Rescuer, Stress, TED* @ Home, TED* @ Work, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim, Victim Orientation, Victimization Challenger, choice, Creator, David Emerald, DDT, Donna Zajonc MCC, Drama Triangle, Dreaded Drama Triangle, growth, learning, making shifts happen, mindset, Persecutor, Rescuer, Shift, TED*, TED* The Empowerment Dynamic, The Empowerment Dynamic, The Power of TED*, Transform Drama, Victim, Victim Orientation 0

The need to please others is one of the most important social skills for all human beings. Appropriately pleasing one another keeps us connected and helps us to survive and thrive together. The challenge comes when your pattern of habitual pleasing is your only response to life—it becomes an obsession rather than a choice. We […]