Working with people stuck in a Victim Mindset can be exhausting and infuriating. When they have a problem, they often prefer to complain or blame, rather than focus on a solution. They cope with life by thinking there is some force outside of them that prevents them from taking charge of their life. We are not writing […]
You know what drama feels like. It’s a muddled mess of difficult energy and usually means you are in an entangled relationship with someone else, a situation, or the way you are relating to yourself. When you slip into this darker drama energy, it’s rare to find any benefit to living in the Dreaded Drama […]
Do you have a tendency to offer advice or to tell people what you think they should do? This is an easy trap and habit to fall into as a manager or a parent—or life in general. By freely sharing our advice, we are satisfying our ego that wants to feel important and confident that […]
I (Donna) recently had a challenging conversation that helped me realize, again, how important listening skills are. Here is the story: I called an audiologist to have my hearing tested. I have had ringing in my ears for a few years and wanted to have it checked out again. The receptionist eagerly found a time […]
Two weeks ago, we wrote about the Victim-to-Creator shift and last week the Persecutor-to-Challenger shift. This week we describe the Coach role, which is the positive alternative, or antidote, to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer. Together, the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles represent the best of who you are as a human being. A […]