I (Donna) recently had a challenging conversation that helped me realize, again, how important listening skills are. Here is the story: I called an audiologist to have my hearing tested. I have had ringing in my ears for a few years and wanted to have it checked out again. The receptionist eagerly found a time […]
In last week’s “TED* Works!®” we wrote about the all-important question, “What do you want?” as the key question to ask to shift out of the problem-focused, anxiety-based, and reactive Victim Orientation. Once you, your team, or family is entrenched in focusing on what you don’t like and don’t want, it explains why getting stuck […]
Two weeks ago, we wrote about the Victim-to-Creator shift and last week the Persecutor-to-Challenger shift. This week we describe the Coach role, which is the positive alternative, or antidote, to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer. Together, the three TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles represent the best of who you are as a human being. A […]
When David first learned about the Karpman Drama Triangle and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer many years ago, he knew he had lived much of his life from a Victim point of view. One day in quiet time he asked: “Okay God. I don’t want to live my life as a Victim anymore, […]
“Cancel culture” is a term that has become popular in the last couple of years. With the recent ugly, reactive, traumatic, and drama-filled events in the US, we have noticed the phrase used more often. Wikipedia defines it this way: “Cancel culture (or call-out culture) is a modern form of ostracism in which someone is […]