Have you ever stepped back and reflected on the tone and quality of the conversations you have with coworkers, friends, or family members? It’s amazing how much time and effort goes into talking about what’s wrong with this, or what we don’t like about that. We call such interactions the “Kinship of Victimhood.” One definition […]
Do you feel uncomfortable when conflicts arise? If so, you may avoid a conflict like the plague and retreat, feeling powerless and victimized by the situation which, of course, places you in the Victim role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). A second way to deal with conflict may be your desire to control the situation and aggress against […]
Drama is something that everyone experiences. Have you ever wondered why that is? Let’s start at the beginning and ask: How does our drama begin in the first place? The simple, yet complex, explanation is that all of us as human beings learn and develop strategies to get what we want as children and to […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why she rejected David’s offer […]
We’ve all experienced situations where we have strong expectations and attachments to how things should be. When we get attached, it often means we’ve put blinders on and get stuck into seeing only one way things could be. Strong expectations, when not fulfilled, can set you up to feel like a Victim when events unfold differently. If […]