Stress

Becoming more mindful does not change your outer circumstances—it changes the way you perceive your circumstances.

October 29 2021

Why So Much Interest in Mindfulness?

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Mindfulness has become popular, promoted widely in business magazines, schools, the military, and health care centers, to name just a few places. Mindfulness is based in meditation practices that are thousands of years old, so it’s hardly “new.” So, why has the interest in being mindful grown so much? One reason there is a lot […]

mountain and tree tops: Shifting your mindset lifts you off the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer.

July 16 2021

Trapped in Repetitive Tasks

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There is a leadership story that illustrates being trapped in repetitive tasks. The story goes like this: There was a hermit who would cut enough wood each summer to heat his forest cabin through the winter. One day, he heard on his shortwave radio that an early winter storm was heading his way. He rushed […]

When you are stuck in the "need-to-please" pattern, you neglect yourself and disempower others

April 16 2021

Recovering from the Need-to-Please Pattern

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Recovering from the “need-to-please” pattern can be a long journey and is deeply rooted in the Rescuer role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When your “go-to” role in the DDT is being the Rescuer, you easily take on being helpful and pleasing to others as a self-identify. Your focus is on the needs of […]

The key to shifting out of being overly helpful is learning to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

March 12 2021

The Dilemma of Being Overly Helpful

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There’s a fine line between being supportive and being overly helpful. Once you slip into over-helpful mode, you don’t have a choice to act. Your desire to be helpful becomes a craving, maybe even a compulsion. In this fast-paced world many of us “over-do” and become vigilant about what might go wrong. As soon as […]

pile of velcro: Oroblems are like Velcro. The more you focus on them the stickier they get

January 29 2021

Problems Stick Together Like Velcro

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Learning to shift from a drama-filled life to one of empowerment begins with focusing on outcomes more than problems. However, it is easy to get captivated by problems and drawn deeper into only seeing them and the anxiety they create. David shares a story about working with an executive who had just been promoted to […]