Great questions trigger ideas and powerful new insights. Depending on the tone and intention behind your questions, they can also come across as condescending and manipulative. What is the secret behind an empowered question that can unlock creativity and invite others to open-up and share? You may be asking zillions of questions and have bits […]
Do you feel uncomfortable when conflicts arise? If so, you may avoid a conflict like the plague and retreat, feeling powerless and victimized by the situation which, of course, places you in the Victim role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). A second way to deal with conflict may be your desire to control the situation and aggress against […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why she rejected David’s offer […]
The inner-Persecutor is that voice in your head that is often harsh, condescending, and even rude. For some people, their inner-Persecutor is a jarring and constant chatter, for others, it babbles in the background and is not always obvious, but its oppressive judgments may still be felt. Even though it may not appear so, the inner-Persecutor’s voice […]
Whether at the office or home, it is common to prematurely rush into problem solving mode rather than simply listening to the other person as they share their feelings. Communication experts describe several reasons why it is easier to rush to problem solving. They are: Being intellectual and rational is highly valued in the Western […]