As we prepare to ring in the new year we want to pause and reflect back on 2021. There were many ups and downs, yet as Creators, we hopefully took the Challengers in stride and were able to grow and learn. As we say goodbye to 2021 and welcome 2022, we want to share 3 […]
Sometimes the smallest trigger can send us into a dizzying cycle of reactive, drama-filled behavior. While triggers are often thought of as negative, they can be either positive or negative. Becoming consciously aware of environments that stimulate your negative triggers, while increasing situations that promote your positive triggers, is what we call becoming “trigger intelligent.” […]
As young school children, we are taught to ask the teacher for support and receive feedback to help us learn. That feedback was often in the form of a grade that we interpreted as either good or bad. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive […]
Most of the self-help books and advice blogs these days include this advice: “You must learn to set healthy boundaries.” If you are anything like us, the idea of setting boundaries sounds like a good idea—and many days, it is so much easier to say “yes” just to keep the peace than it is to […]
Last week our blog was titled “The Many Faces of the Persecutor,” in which we described several ways the Persecutor role in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) may appear. As unpleasant as Persecutors can be—whether they show up as people, conditions, or situations—they can also be openings for great learning. When you cultivate the antidote […]