A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why she rejected David’s offer […]
We’ve all experienced situations where we have strong expectations and attachments to how things should be. When we get attached, it often means we’ve put blinders on and get stuck into seeing only one way things could be. Strong expectations, when not fulfilled, can set you up to feel like a Victim when events unfold differently. If […]
The inner-Persecutor is that voice in your head that is often harsh, condescending, and even rude. For some people, their inner-Persecutor is a jarring and constant chatter, for others, it babbles in the background and is not always obvious, but its oppressive judgments may still be felt. Even though it may not appear so, the inner-Persecutor’s voice […]
Whether at the office or home, it is common to prematurely rush into problem solving mode rather than simply listening to the other person as they share their feelings. Communication experts describe several reasons why it is easier to rush to problem solving. They are: Being intellectual and rational is highly valued in the Western […]
Gratitude is often called a “relationship emotion” because it exists in relationship to others, yourself, or what you are appreciating. It is a complex emotion that doesn’t stand alone because it seeds additional positive emotions. When you are in a state of gratitude you become more expansive, open, feel lighter, happier, and more content. In this state, […]